Female Bullying

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Ryan Nuu
WRTG 1250

Phoebe Prince, an Irish-Immigrant, was a girl new to America and high school drama. She was just a freshman and didn’t fit in with any clique especially the cheerleaders or jocks. But somehow for a brief instance she dated a senior football player. The senior cheerleaders did not look on it very kindly. For two months they made it their mission to make Phoebes life a living hell. They would confront her and call her unspeakable names. They would attack her via facebook, text, and twitter. There wasn’t a facet of Phoebe’s young life that these vicious girls could not intervene and attack her through. Phoebe persevered through the attacks and was asked to the snow fling by the senior boy. Two days before the dance, Phoebe was walking home when cheerleaders drove by her called her a slut and proceeded to through a full energy drink at her head. An hour later Phoebe’s parents came home to a hanged daughter (Kotz, True Crime). Female bullying is a rising issue. Typical high school female bullies are popular, pretty; seemingly perfect students who are admired by their teachers. Bullying is intentional, repeated, and meant to humiliate and cause harm. Female bullying is a vicious cycle, because the once bullied girl normally becomes a bully. Girls have evolved their tactics of bullying beyond the scope of physical fighting and name calling, which can only be done at school; now a victim can be bullied any and all times of the day through cyber and relational bullying. There is a common misconception among parents about bullying that sounds something like this, “Don’t fix the problem. Just deal with.” So in other words “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger”, but in the case of bullying it doesn’t make everyone stronger. Bullying is not just another part of school life for teenage girls; it causes hurt physically and psychologically for both the bully and victim. Therefore, the awareness for bullying needs to be stepped up not only in the schools, but in these children’s homes as well. It lurks in the shadows, it is hardly ever seen, but it is felt. Young girls across the world know the feeling, know the hurt, and know the lingering effects. It is relational aggression. Relational aggression is not as overt as physical bullying. It can occur over and over again without anyone noticing but the bully and victim. Relational aggression is any behavior that is intended to harm someone by damaging or manipulating relationships with others (Crick and Grotpeter n.p.). It is the most prominent among young girls, and yet the most underrated. There are two types: proactive and reactive relational aggression. Proactive is when bullying behaviors are a means for achieving a goal, while reactive is bullying behavior that is in response to provocations, with the intent to retaliate. The reason these two forms of bullying normally fly under the radar are because there are so many ways it can be disguised. It can be in the form of: exclusion, malicious gossip, teasing, intimidation, manipulative affection, alliance building, and cyber-bullying (Crick and Grotpeter n.p.). However, these “forms” are also in most cases seen as “normal” behavior for young females. It is called communication skills. In order for young girls to grow up they need to learn how to converse with each other without being offended or causing conflict. Because in the “real world” these problems never disappear. The mean kid, doesn’t vanish with age, she just becomes better at being malicious with time. So, young girls need to figure out now how to deal with this conflict or they will always be picked on. In The Sunday Times, Maurice Chitten writes an article with the title, “Bullying can be good for children.” In this article she claims, “…childhood bullying may be good for you. Researchers have found that if boys or girls are able to stand up for themselves, being attacked by enemies can help their...
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